The episode of This American Life that I listened to today was titled “The Question Trap”, an investigation of when and why people ask loaded questions that are a proxy for something else.
One segment covered loaded questions
asked on the first date that are used as a litmus test about the character and
attitudes of the respondent. My first thought was, “Is that really
fair?? Several women admitted to using
this method to determine if there would be a second date. They asked questions such as “What do you
think of Beyonce?”…”What would you do if your ex and her date came walking into
the restaurant right now?”…and oddly enough, ”What do you think of ghosts?” I googled the subject several different ways,
finally hitting pay dirt on ‘dating trap questions’ and was pleased to see a
Reddit thread that talked about this very episode of This American Life. What a
delightful rabbit hole I stumbled into!😎
This was the Reddit posting: There was a segment about "trap questions" on
the This American Life podcast this week - innocuous sounding
questions that are used to discern hidden meaning. The biggest example in
dating they used was women of color asking their dates what they thought of
Beyonce and extrapolating that answer out as a way to gauge their dates'
opinion of strong successful women in general and of women of color more
specifically.
What are your dating trap questions and how
do you interpret the answers? Edit:
"trap question" is a crappy name but it's the name they used on TAL,
“filter questions” would have been better.
Some comments were serious, some were humorous, and some seemed outraged
that this is even a thing. This comment
was probably my favorite because it echoes some of my thoughts when I was
listening to this segment, except my thoughts didn’t swear:
As an autistic woman, y'all are so f*cking
weird. If you want the answer to a question, ask the question. Asking if someone likes Beyonce will tell you
if they like Beyonce. If you want to know how your date feels about successful
black women and female empowerment in music; f*cking ask them that.
The idea that you can reliably extrapolate
information about point B by asking something as vague as question A, is
idiotic. Boom! Mic drop!!
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Wednesday might be
Hump Day for the working world but out here in Picacho, Wednesday is the day
the piggy cookies are delivered. Last week I went on Thursday and found none; I
did not make that mistake this week.
After my walk I jumped in the truck and headed to the IGA…bought enough
to send some to the grandkiddos. One of
the things I enjoy doing when we’re out here…mailing stuff to the kiddos.
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It was windy today…the
kind of wind that produced over 100 pictures on the cell cam of blowing
branches. There were two videos of a roadrunner, though…it comes into
view of the camera, stops like it’s deciding which direction to go and then
goes. Takes maybe 5 seconds of the 15 second
video that the camera records. Have only
seen one roadrunner and that one was running across the highway in
Coolidge. All other sightings have been
courtesy of the cell cam.
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Put a seed cake on
a plastic plate and set it on the picnic table.
Yesterday, a dove and some sparrows were enjoying it. Sometime this morning the plate had gotten
knocked onto the ground and the sparrows were having a party underneath the
table. Didn’t take long for the
remainder of the seed cake to disappear. They’ve also eaten an entire suet cake and are
diligently working on the second. The cardinals
are spending more time in the yard also; usually the male is on the seed cake,
but the female seems satisfied to get what she can off the ground.
Tonight, there was
an owl hooting not far from the camper. Haven’t heard that around here before. It
took some time to realize it was an owl and not those incessant doves cooing. Plus,
it was after dark…never hear the doves after dark. Stepped outside to listen…very definitely an
owl and it sounded really close, like in the bushes or across the street in a
tree close.
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No imaging tonight…Kim is
tired and the sky won’t be clear until late.
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